She cried More, More, More

I'm going to have to bore you with some sexuality related social frustration. So some politician was sexting with other women behind his wife's back while she was off being internationally politically influential. A friend posted an article about this, and I made a comment that it as pretty sad they are such an ill-fitting couple. He obviously needs someone who can spend all day sending him sexy messages and generally boosting his ego. His wife needs someone who is not involved in politics and generally more discreet than this guy seems to be. That these two ended up married just goes to show how far our society is from being honest with ourselves and each other when discussing relationships.

Apparently suggesting that a certain man might benefit from a woman who wants the role of traditional wife is offensive. It seems to be popular to to make any indiscretion equal in severity than any other. That your relationship guidelines must be the same guidelines as every public figure. That a husband sexting someone other than his wife is sexual harassment, even if the other woman willingly participated. When did infidelity become the same as harassment? When did every issue of infidelity mean that the man is basically evil? And why?

Although it is an over-simplification, if you give a man what he needs, he won't go looking for it somewhere else. Not always true, and all women can provide the needs for all men. Some things can not be repressed, but should be embraced inside a healthy loving relationship. Being married to a woman and having kids is not suddenly going to turn a gay man strait. In the same way, marrying a powerful woman who is often out of town is not going to take away one man's need to be constantly told how sexy he is. No cheating is the same as any other. Blame doesn't attach, but neither should unfeeling judgment.

Being placed as I am, I come by many stories. Stories of infidelity. Stories of alternative rules for fidelity. Stories of growth and development--both kept happily inside a relationship and bringing relationships to an end. As far as I'm concerned, no blame attaches. What's the point of blame? It doesn't make anyone happy and doesn't bring about a mutually beneficial resolution. Probably personal stories come to me because I don't get worked up by them.

I wonder if these women that are so disturbed by male sexuality would have a problem with this blog. Certainly this blog could be considered trying to sext with the world. I have sex. I write about sucking cock. I admit to having fantasies about a celebrity. I admit to wanting to stir up desire. I also call myself a housewife and am proud of this choice. I'm turned on by giving my knight what he needs. I'm not offended that your choices are different. That you look for something else in a relationship. If my choices make you "throw up a little bit in my mouth", then you can Kiss My Ass. After you've rinsed your mouth out, of course.